Child Is A Boy Or Girl - 1730 Words

Children are not known to form attachments with just one person. Even though a child may grow up and be natured by both parents in the home and children, the emphasis is usually placed on the mother and the attachment formed with the mother seems to be the most significant whether the child is a boy or girl. It is the mother that focused on to provide the stability and security for the child to develop a secure attachment. This is likely because the mother is the one that the child is likely to form an affectionate bond with. An affectionate bond is described as a bond that is not transitional but rather continuous with someone that is consistent rather than interchangeable. In addition this person remains in close proximity to the child†¦show more content†¦One of the most distressing ways that a child is affected when he or she is removed from the parent or caregiver is in that child’s emotional regulation. Emotional regulation is important because studies show that â€Å"young children who have better self-regulation are more socially competent, have fewer problem behaviors, show more internalized control of behavior, and in general, show fewer externalizing problem behaviors† (Miller Commons, 2010). Internalizing behaviors are depression and anxiety while externalizing behaviors involve aggression and violence. Not only is the mother to provide stability but to do so she herself must be stable. In situations of neglect it more times than others as a result of an unstable mother due to the leading cause of substance abuse quickly followed by mental health issues or poverty. According to Donohue et al, 2014, â€Å" more than 8 million children in the united states have at least one parent who abuses substances, with the percentage of women evidencing severe levels of illicit drug use increasingly relative to me†(p. 707). Women are also under additional strain in the home because â€Å"Today 1 in 4 children under the age of 18 — a total of about 17.4 million — are being raised without a fathers and nearly half (45%) live below the poverty line† (Donohue et al, 2014). As a result, due to substance abuse and additional stressors, the mother can have difficulty in